I'm in my head tonight, folks. Nestled comfortably in a particularly favorite corner, warm and comfortable, and I don't really want to move out of that space.
So I've got nothin' for you. Except maybe one thing. A sentence that has been making an appearance in my mind since I read it on Marjorie's blog. I went back to it tonight. She's right. The idea that love and jealousy are almost the same word.
I'm not talking about insane, obsessive jealousy. I'm talking about a healthy dose of it when you love somebody. I don't know anyone who truly loves somebody that would like to share them with somebody else.
I remember very clearly the way I felt when somebody I was supposedly in a serious relationship with said that he was fine with me seeing other people because he wanted me to be happy. I thought it was a strange thing to say to somebody you love. I felt right off that he didn't really care about me. If he had, then how could he so nonchalantly be so willing to share me with other men?
I didn't stick around. But found out later it was because he wanted to be happy, with other women. So that explained it. I was glad to be out of the harem I hadn't even realized I was a part of. I'm not the harem type. I need to feel special in a relationship.
This was many moons ago. But I still remember feeling like I wasn't worth much to him if he didn't care if I saw other men.
I don't think this makes a person possessive. I'm the least possessive or jealous person I know. But I have experienced twinges of jealousy. Who hasn't? Not if you actually care about somebody.
Anyway, this concept struck me. I've been mulling it over. I'm sure it'll end up being part of a book. Love and jealousy almost being the same word.
It's true.
Guess I had more to say than I thought.
Okay, back to my comfy corner. I'm sleeeeeepy. I want to snuggle in under my quilts.
Over and out.
5 comments:
By asking those questions you're on the right trail tracks.
In the end there is no one answer.
Those who return respect move beyond crap-wrapped common hours.
D.
Thanks David. You have a quite the way with words :)
I think there's a difference between love and jealousy - they go hand in hand, yes, and are sometimes inseperable, but they are different things. What does love make you do? What does jealousy (even the good kind) make you do? I don't know, I just think there's a difference. Good food for thought!
Bethany, I agree there is a difference. But I think that if you love somebody it's inevitable that you'll feel jealousy at some point.
I think there's a scale, though. How far along on that scale to either extreme is destructive. Maybe there's a fine line. Thanks for your thoughts.
That should say, "too far along toward either extreme end of the scale is destructive." Not all that coherent. I've got a wine spritzer in me. Mmmmm.
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