Interesting Timing

Every so often my first ex-husband, I have two, messages me on Facebook. I haven't heard from him in about a month, but he struck up a conversation with me this morning when I was checking to see if my sitter sent me a message. Our conversations are pretty reflective.

We were best friends from the time we were about 13 years old. For years after we split we didn't talk. But we come from the same neighborhood. My street a little worse than his, but not by much. He lived down the road and across the tracks from me. But I digress.

He happened to mention to me that young women help to ease "the pain" for a while. I told him that it was an illusion. More trouble than it's worth, in the long run. He told me I was a buzz kill. Which I'm sure I was, in that particular dialogue. But I've had my mind in my book and in researching sexual addiction. Maybe a lot of people experience varying levels of sexual addiction. Or some addiction. Everyone is recovering from something, me thinks.

We didn't talk long. We never do. It's more of a checking in with each other than anything else. We've known one another forever and a day. And it's nice to be able to converse without hostility and to actually feel good will toward each other. He's one of the few people in this world who really knows me, has seen me transform through many stages in life.

But it got me thinking. About who people are and how we react. What we reach for when searching for reprieve. The decisions we make. My second marraige was a wreck. But I agreed to get married when I was in a sexual stupor. I agreed to move countries because I was in a sexual stupor. My judgement completely skewed. Moving proved to be a good decision for me. The marriage, not so much.

So I can relate. Anyone care to share about their opiate of choice? Food? Exercise? Alcohol? Drugs? Sex? Books? Anger? Gambling? Spending? Leave a comment and I'll sweeten the deal by offering up any book in my back list to a winner to be chosen randomly.

I see on the side bar that I have a few more followers. Silent lurkers. Nice to see you. I appreciate you hangin' with me :)